Therapy for Relationships and Attachment in NYC
Build healthier relationships by understanding and trusting yourself
If you find yourself fearing you’re too much or not enough, having the same dating experiences no matter who you’re with, or pulling back when things get serious—therapy for relationships and attachment can help you finally have relationships that feel healthy, mutual, and authentic.
We work with clients throughout New York City to help you understand your patterns and finally trust yourself again, with virtual therapy across New York State and in person sessions in Midtown Manhattan.
You’re doing well in life—except when it comes to relationships.
You’re thoughtful, capable, and self aware. You show up in your career, maintain friendships, and do well in your day-to-day life. From the outside, things look solid. But when it comes to romantic relationships, you feel unsettled and unsure. You might find yourself questioning your reactions, doubting your instincts, or wondering why something that feels so important also feels so hard.
Maybe you overanalyze texts, tone shifts, or moments of distance, trying to figure out where you stand. Or maybe when someone starts to get close, you pull back—suddenly feeling overwhelmed, numb, or disconnected. You crave intimacy but fear being too much, not enough, or eventually hurt. No matter how much insight you have, the same relationship patterns keep repeating, leaving you frustrated and confused.
You’ve tried to think your way through this. You’ve read about attachment styles, recognized yourself in the descriptions, and understood why you react the way you do—yet nothing actually changes when emotions are activated. That’s because these patterns were shaped long before logic had a role, and insight alone isn’t enough to undo them. Trying to manage this on your own—while continuing to date, work, and hold everything else together—can be exhausting. Therapy offers a space to slow down, understand these patterns at a deeper level, and begin building relationships that feel more secure, grounded, and healthy.
Does this sound familiar?
You overthink texts, conversations, and subtle shifts in energy—constantly trying to figure out where you stand.
You lose yourself in relationships—saying yes when you mean no, minimizing your needs, or prioritizing harmony over honesty.
You fear being too much or not enough, even when nothing is “wrong” on the surface.
You keep ending up in the same relationship dynamic, no matter who you’re with.
You feel anxious, insecure, or on edge in relationships—never fully relaxed or certain it’s safe to just be yourself.
You chase emotional connection with people who feel distant or unavailable.
You want closeness, but when someone gets too close, you feel overwhelmed, shut down, or unsure.
You struggle to trust your instincts, your feelings, or your ability to choose a healthy partner.
If this resonates, you don’t have to navigate this all on your own.
And we’re glad you found your way here.
Have early experiences affected your relationships?
From a young age, you learned how to navigate relationships by observing and experiencing how your parents or caregivers modeled and gave you love, responded to your needs, and handled conflict.
These early patterns shape the way you connect with others well into adulthood.
Early experiences of instability, neglect, or emotional abuse often leave lasting impressions.
You might find it hard to trust, open up, or feel truly secure with others.
Maybe you stay in relationships that feel unfulfilling, push people away before they have the chance to hurt you, or push your needs to the side to avoid conflict.
Untangling these patterns on your own can feel overwhelming.
Therapy offers a supportive space to explore where these struggles come from, gain clarity, and begin to form the kind of steady, fulfilling relationships you’ve always wanted and deserve.
What are the signs you might be struggling with insecure attachment?
How attachment wounds may show up in your relationships:
Trouble trusting or letting people in
Pulling back when things are getting real
Fear of being abandoned or left behind
Feeling on edge or unsure where you stand
Relying heavily on a partner for worth or stability
Neglecting your own needs to keep the peace
Uncertainty of who you are outside of your relationship
Being drawn to emotionally unavailable partners
Feeling alone or disconnected, even when you’re not
How can therapy help your relationships?
Explore how early relationships has shaped your feelings, methods to connect, and coping today
Understand the role attachment patterns play in managing emotions
Notice and change relationship habits that no longer serve you
Learn grounding tools to calm your nervous system and handle triggers
Build confidence in expressing needs and setting boundaries
Heal old attachment wounds in a safe, supportive space
Experience the security of a trusting therapeutic relationship as a model for trust
Create relationships that feel more balanced and meaningful
Change is Possible
Change is Possible
Even though you can’t change your past, the way it shows up in your current relationships doesn’t have to stay the same.
In therapy, you’ll begin to recognize patterns you’ve outgrown and learn to build deeper, more secure relationships.
With yourself and the people around you!
Frequently Asked Questions about
Therapy for Relationships and Attachment:
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Attachment-based therapy focuses on understanding and healing the emotional and relational patterns developed in early childhood.
This aims to help you recognize how your early attachments influence your current relationships and emotional well-being.
It provides a framework for understanding and healing relational patterns and promoting healthier relationships and emotional resilience.
Basically, it helps us answer: How do your early relationships and attachment style affect your emotional well-being and present relationships? -
Therapy gives you a safe space to notice patterns like fawning and overanalyzing.
You’ll learn strategies to set boundaries, regulate emotions, and respond authentically. -
Every client’s needs and experience is unique.
Many people notice shifts in patterns and emotional responses within a few months.
Deeper attachment work takes longer. -
Absolutely not!
Attachment-based therapy helps whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship.
Skills learned also improve your relationship with yourself, family, coworkers, and friends. -
You’ll explore past and current patterns, practice grounding and self-soothing, and learn how to assert needs and show up authentically.
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Yes!
I offer virtual and in person therapy in New York, specializing in relationship and attachment therapy.
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We support clients navigating relationship difficulties throughout New York City with in person therapy in Midtown Manhattan and virtual therapy across New York State.
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