Attachment-Based Therapy in New York,
New Jersey, and Florida
Discover how your earliest relationships shape how you feel about yourself, how you connect with others, and how safe you feel in your relationships
What is Attachment-Based Therapy?
Attachment-based therapy explores how your earliest relationships shape the way you connect with others today.
Your attachment styles patterns, often formed in childhood, can influence how safe, seen, and supported you feel in relationships, and how you respond to conflict, distance, or closeness.
Through this approach, therapy becomes a space to gently uncover and heal the relational patterns that no longer serve you.
Together, we’ll explore how past dynamics show up in your present relationships and begin to form new, secure relationships.
At its core, psychodynamic therapy is about understanding the “why” behind your inner world.
So often, we repeat old patterns without realizing it such as saying yes when we want to say no, choosing partners who feel familiar but not fulfilling, or feeling anxious when things are calm.
These patterns are rarely random; they’re often rooted in early relationships and experiences that shaped how we see ourselves and others.
Through this type of therapy, you’ll begin to notice these themes, understand where they come from, and develop new ways of relating to yourself and to the people in your life.
How Do Early Relationships & Attachment Styles Affect Emotional Well-Being?
How Does Attachment-Based Therapy Work?
In session, we’ll explore the connection between your past and present while gently uncovering the roots of your emotional patterns, relational triggers, and core beliefs.
Together, we’ll make sense of how your early experiences shape the way you connect, communicate, and care for yourself today.
You might notice that the ways you protect yourself or seek reassurance or closeness now mirror old dynamics; patterns that once helped you cope but may no longer serve you.
Therapy helps bring these patterns into awareness so you can respond differently, with more self-trust and ease.
We might look at:
Your attachment style — how you form, maintain, and experience closeness in relationships
Your early relationship experiences — what you learned about safety, love, and emotional connection growing up
Patterns in past and current relationships — identifying recurring themes, fears, or communication habits
Your emotional triggers — what activates your anxiety, withdrawal, or need for reassurance
Core beliefs about yourself and others — the internal narratives that shape your sense of worth and belonging
Your capacity for self-soothing and self-compassion — learning to regulate emotions and meet your needs in healthy ways
By developing this awareness, you’ll begin to understand not just what you feel, but why; allowing you to move through relationships and life with more compassion, clarity, and confidence.
Together, we’ll work toward building a secure internal foundation. One that allows you to feel safe, calm, and connected both within yourself and in your relationships.
Is Attachment-Based Therapy Right for You?
Attachment-Based Therapy may be a good fit if you:
Struggle with anxiety or fear of abandonment in relationships
Tend to overgive, people-please, or avoid emotional closeness
Feel disconnected or uncertain about what you need in relationships
Repeat patterns that leave you feeling unseen, insecure, or unfulfilled
Want to deepen your understanding of yourself and your emotional world
My Integrative Approach
My Integrative Approach
While Attachment-Based Therapy is a central part of my work, I draw from a range of evidence-based modalities to support your growth from multiple angles.
Our work together combines the depth of psychodynamic therapy and attachment theory with the practical tools of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness-Based Approaches, and Person-Centered Therapy.
This integrative approach allows us to explore how your past experiences and attachment patterns influence your emotions and relationships while also developing tangible skills to manage anxiety, regulate your emotions, and create more balanced, fulfilling relationships.
Together, we’ll focus on both insight and action: helping you understand yourself and your relational patterns more deeply, while building the tools to move through life with greater confidence, clarity, and emotional security.
Frequently Asked Questions about
Attachment-Based Therapy:
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Attachment theory is a framework that helps us understand how our early relationships shape the way we connect with others as adults.
The way your parents or caregivers responded to your emotional needs growing up; whether you felt safe, seen, and supported plays a major role in how you form and maintain relationships today.
When those early needs weren’t consistently met, you might develop one of the three insecure attachment styles:Anxious attachment: Feeling preoccupied with relationships, worrying about rejection, or needing reassurance to feel secure.
Avoidant attachment: Feeling uncomfortable with closeness, suppressing emotions, or valuing independence over connection.
Disorganized attachment: Wanting closeness but also fearing it, often struggling to trust or regulate emotions in relationships.
In attachment-based therapy, we explore how these early patterns influence your emotional well-being and current relationships helping you build awareness, heal old wounds, and move toward a secure attachment style, where you can feel safe, calm, and confident both within yourself and with others.
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Attachment styles describe the patterns of how we connect, communicate, and cope in relationships. The main styles include:
Secure attachment: Comfortable with intimacy and trusting others
Anxious attachment: Worries about rejection, seeks constant reassurance
Avoidant attachment: Pulls away from closeness, values independence over connection
Disorganized attachment: Desires closeness but fears it, struggles with trust and emotional regulation.
In attachment-based therapy, we explore your style to understand your relational patterns and work toward developing more secure, balanced relationships.
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Attachment-based therapy is a form of talk therapy that helps you understand how your early relationships (especially with your parents/caregivers) shape the way you connect, communicate, and cope today.
It focuses on building self-awareness, emotional regulation, and new secure relationships by healing the attachment wounds that may still influence your present life. -
This approach can help anyone struggling with anxiety, relationship challenges, self-esteem issues, or emotional regulation.
It’s especially supportive for those who notice recurring patterns in their relationships such as fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, or feeling overly responsible for others’ emotions. -
In session, we’ll explore the connections between your past and present while uncovering how early relaionships may shape your emotional responses and relationship dynamics today.
Through insight and self-awareness, you’ll begin to build a secure internal foundation and develop tools for healthier connection, communication, and emotional balance. -
The process looks different for everyone.
Some clients begin noticing meaningful shifts within a few months, while others prefer longer-term work to explore deeper patterns.
Together, we’ll create a pace and plan that aligns with your goals and emotional needs. -
Attachment-Based Therapy is rooted in understanding relationships, both past and present, as central to your emotional health.
While modalities like CBT or DBT focus on skills and coping tools, attachment-based work looks at the “why” behind your patterns, offering insight into the root causes of emotional and relational struggles. -
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I offer online therapy for clients located in New York, New Jersey, and Florida.
You can meet from the comfort of your home while still receiving the same personalized support.
I also offer in person therapy in my modern and conveniently located Midtown Manhattan office. -
You can start by booking your complimentary intro call.
We’ll explore what’s been coming up for you lately, what you’re hoping to gain from therapy, and how I can help you understand yourself more deeply, uncover the roots of recurring patterns, and begin creating lasting change in your life.
Still have questions?
Schedule your complimentary intro call today to learn how attachment-based therapy can help you understand your relationship patterns, heal from past experiences, and start building a stronger sense of security both within yourself and in your relationships.
